I'm happy to share our adoption story today! Bear and I married in 2006, little knowing that by 2015, we would have two precious children through China's special needs adoption program.
Adoption was something we had discussed as a “later on” hope, but the Lord definitely had a much richer and exciting life story than the one we had mapped out. We discussed adopting from almost the beginning, but when circumstances took away our (false) sense of control, it took a good couple years to recognize that our greatly pursued plan for our future family simply didn't measure up to God's design! His way would extend beyond us to two of His own precious ones on the other side of the world.
In spring 2013, after a 15 months-long leap of faith otherwise known as an adoption process, we had the unspeakable privilege of adopting our tenderhearted, generous oldest child in Chongqing, China. Like many others, we were changed forever and knew we would be back. We did not know we would be back in China in only 21 months! Our second adoption process was different from the first, a quicker process that began with a tidal wave experience of calling. We had quick clarity about what we were supposed to do- all that remained was that “Will you or won’t you go?” decision.
Thirteen months later, that final month spent waiting eagerly through the Chinese New Year closures, we were in Guangzhou holding our amazing Tiny Mighty. With both girls, our first year home was pretty adoption-typical, which is to say we didn't sleep a lot, spent countless hours carrying children or on the floor relationship-building, laughed, cried, and generally figured we were probably doing this thing all wrong! Things that I feel helped our process with both girls were setting aside expectations of when things would "settle down" in favor of celebrating baby steps in our unique kids (and taking their perspective when in doubt), cocooning and treating attachment and relationship growing very intentionally, and tapping our inner mama and papa bear when needed!
Our prayer is that you get to experience the amazing gift of adoption in your own life, whether through God's beautiful grafting work on your family or as you encounter ways to support families adopting and fostering.
The Norris Family
Elizabeth, I love how God brought you and Bear to your daughters all the way in China! What a beautiful family God has knit together. Thank you for sharing.
As with any adoption story, there are no two adoptions that are the same. We would love to hear your adoption story from a Christian perspective. Some families choose international adoption while other families choose domestic adoption (private or foster care). If you have adopted and would like us to feature your adoption story on Adoption Story Wednesday, please go to our Share Your Story page to submit to Adoption Strong.
“However motherhood comes to you, it’s a miracle.” Valerie Harper