From Jeanne: Beautiful. Strong. Broken. Restored. Loving. God’s work. God’s heart. The list goes on. Adoption is a journey that has been a life transformation for my husband and me in so many wonderful ways. While we see God’s amazing grace as he chose an orphan thousand of miles away in China and then he entrusted that child into our hands-parents who are committed to teaching our son about who Christ is-we see his heart from such an angle that changes us forever. But what has changed me furthermore, was the process of faith and trust once we got home. Our son has a GI issue and I spare the details for the sake of his privacy, but this last year has been challenging, rewarding, hard, and amazing all in one.
As many know, China is a special needs adoption only. I am a parent who had never experienced the life as a special needs mother or relative for that matter. I honestly can admit, I had never had hands on experience. However, I am thankful. My life has been humbled, changed for the better, and rewarding because of this journey with my son. You know, I myself having a mild hearing loss (as a child) I actually fell into the realm of needing care, speech therapy, added attention and time, and hearing resources to be able to flourish. Maybe it is why I wasn’t afraid of special needs adoptions? I had a heart that was capable of understanding through the facts that I flourished despite the obstacles that were set before me or the facts told to me by doctors. I knew that when determined and given the proper resources, I was able to overcome anything!
Now what I wasn’t prepared for was the medical side of things. These experiences have been things I wasn’t emotionally prepared for, they have been moments that have broken my heart when seeing him cry. But it has been a journey that has built a newfound sense of compassion in me. It has made me seek God’s hand of favor not only over my precious child, finances, and favor over each decision and process that we have to walk through. It has made me pray even harder for my marriage because of the stresses it can bring as well on two parents.
While our needs are temporary until surgeries fix the issues, it still doesn’t make them easy. Special needs parents each walk through different situations that make life hard when we see those we love suffer. I have grown humbled by how much God shows up so BIG at the times I have needed him during this last year. So…what I am sharing today is this: I have learned deeply every obstacle has an eternal purpose. I also see how God has grown me and my husband and has used our situations to encourage others. The hospitals have been draining places for me, as a result, the compassion I have now for parents walking in these shoes has been birthed big in my heart. During one hospital visit, I was at loss on how to pray and then I felt God place a passion for parents in these situations fill me…. I wrote these prayer guides as a result (see below). They helped me intentional in prayer for my child and my marriage during a time I was depleted.
I want to share with the hope God uses it to at least encourage one or several others who may have experienced the same thing! How thankful I am for prayer, how thankful I am he pours into us, how thankful that he never allows anything into our lives that isn’t part of his will – with that I know I can give thanks in all things despite how I may feel. FOR 14 DAYS OF PRAYERS OF HEALING FOR YOUR CHILD AND 14 DAYS OF PRAYERS FOR YOUR HUSBAND click here https://www.aprayingwife.com/sign-up-for-apw-group
“However motherhood comes to you, it’s a miracle.” Valerie Harper