From Lauren: When first setting out on our adoption adventure I had a vague idea of what a home study would be like. I imagined it would be someone inspecting every nook and cranny of my house with a white glove to check for dust. Even when a few friends who had already adopted told me not to worry about it, I still stressed anyway.
I’m a little OCD when it comes to cleaning my house has to be clean before anyone can come visit. For days leading up to the social worker coming, I cleaned like there would be no tomorrow. Every inch of my house sparkled by the time I was finished. I was so proud of my hard work and I was ready to show it off!
The day finally came for our first home study visit. To say I was nervous is an understatement. Our social worker came in, we offered her a seat at our dining room table, but she said she would prefer to sit on our couch because she didn't want the visit to feel too formal! I was stunned! She went over the paperwork we would need and explained how many visits there would be, and where to go for fingerprinting and background checks.
Then she asked to do the dreaded house tour. I was so afraid that something would spontaneously break or our dog would have an accident on the floor, a million different scenarios played out in my mind. But as we showed her each room, and she commented how pretty the decorations were or how she loved the paint colors. She was so nice! The tour was actually very quick and easy. She never looked to see if my cabinets were organized, or if I clean out the lint trap. It was such a relief. After it was over I confessed how nervous I was for it. She smiled and told me there was never a reason to stress about it.
The home visits and interview part of the home study was very easy. I did get frustrated when having to dig up tons of documents and financial statements. At times I felt like it wasn't fair we had to jump through hoops to become parents when it's so easy for most people. But this is when I would have to stop and ask God to keep my eyes on Him and to believe in His perfect plan for my family. I would have to remember that the home study process would get us one step closer to our forever baby.
Although a little lengthy, I would say our home study was relativity easy and smooth. It definitely helped to surround myself with other couples that had been in our shoes. Just a tip, make sure you ask for several copies of your home study as different people may need notarized copies! If you are going through the adoption process and don't have any close friends to lean on, please feel free to message us here on the website or our Adoption Strong Facebook page! We would love to support you however we can!
“However motherhood comes to you, it’s a miracle.” Valerie Harper